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How to have proper Etiquette


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In the 19th century, wine, entertaining and feasting was widely practised, as tradition in an English home was banqueting and/or hosting such huge events.

In Western European culture attending parties was almost like the law. It was a British regulation, and part of high society. In the late nineteenth century, a wealthy family would always serve their feast on exquisite china followed by silverware.

Although you have the working class to lower and upper middle class, all classes celebrate at some point.

I would love to one day specifically do a blog on “Victorian Englands Social Hierarchy” but I don’t want to get too carried away and off topic, but I just want to give you a bit of a background to the topic we are going to be covering.

The idea of banqueting is actually found in ancient times, but the definition of it is: a large meal or feast, completed with main courses and desserts. It is also known as an elaborate and formal evening meal.

For example, you have ‘state banquets’ held at Buckingham Palace. The English have “Dinner Etiquette” when it comes to formal dining. If you have been invited to a dinner, always make sure to RSVP at least within a week whether it is lavish or not. This is out of general respect. Your response should always be handwritten or printed on a correspondence card.

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Manners and Etiquette in general should still matter these days and proper manners allow us to be comfortable in front of others and society. It is used in todays aspects, in a world of social media. Social Media etiquette is something I really would like to cover and is a whole other topic and should be used when posting on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, etc. I believe that when you use the correct manners you will always be highly regarded and more respected than those who don’t.

Formal Dining

  1. A formal dinner requires a lady to wear evening attire, such as a slim black dress that flatters or accentuates your body. In the eighteenth century the dinner dress code was a corset, bodice, stockings, petticoat, a gown, ruffles and shoes. (With  formal evening attire make sure you dress classically and appropriately. If you are not sure about the appropriate dress, ask the host before attending)
  2. Never serve for yourself, unless stated
  3. Do not pass dishes around, to avoid any trait of clumsiness
  4. When there are butlers, they do all the service and table clearing If there are serving dishes or utensils placed on the table then you may ask the hosts if you can serve yourself, otherwise, I always wit until I am told that i can serve myself. Wait, watch, look and see what other people are doing as well
  5. It is not your local coffee shop where you can just sit down wherever or whenever you like – there is specific seating arrangement, especially in royal household!

Feast by candle light

When serving a formal dinner

  1. Forks go on the left
  2. Salad fork first
  3. Dinner fork beside the plate
  4. On the right side of the plate, knife, appetiser, salad knife, spoon or soup spoon.
  5. The dessert fork and spoon are placed on the table above the plate, fork pointing right, spoon pointing left

At a formal dinner, the host/hostess or the guests do not assist with serving meals. Formal dining, you should know, does not allow you to have second helpings as well.

formal dinner diagram

Menu Courses

A full course dinner can consist of several dishes. Even 16!

  1. Appetisers – These canapés would be served in the drawing room before entering the dining room
  2. Soup – A cream coup to help digestive systems prepare for heavier courses
  3. Fish – Can be served as a platter hot or cold
  4. Entree – can consist of poultry or vegetables
  5. Removes – This is a portion of a meal
  6. Sorbet – This is a palate cleanser
  7. Roast – The final heavy course

You can also include number 8 as a salad which is greens with a light dressing.

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If you want to Eat like an Edwardian with a meal plan like the Crawleys of Downton Abbey, this is the way to go! You can also include fruit and cheese! Here is an example from Prince William and Catherine Middletons wedding:

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Traditionally, after the whole course menu there is some form or entertainment, typically in the 19th century it was dancing and playing with cards – like you see in those period costume dramas.

Getting involved in these activities will benefit you socially and people will love you for it!

Lastly, don’t forget to say ‘thank you’ to the host/s for such a wonderful evening, or for holding such a great party! The nicer you are, the more respect you get!

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Treasured moments at Tranby House


Brought to you by Peninsula Tea Gardens, ‘Parisian afternoon tea’ was divine, and scrumptious dipping in different tea flavours and trying out different tea sandwiches on the banks of the Swan River in Perth, Western Australia.

Sandwiches are a a variety from the following:

– ham, egg, and Dijon mustard with mayonnaise

– Roast Beef and Horseradish with avocado mayonnaise

– and my favourite was Smoked Salmon and cucumber with salmon mousse and cream cheese

 

They were stacked and presented on a three – tiered curate stand together with fine bone china and silverware.

The pink macaron was a delight!

I arrived about 45 minutes early, so I decided to take the time to take some photos for the blog, so that you can enjoy a snippet of what it would be like. It was so inviting, and welcoming, and I really loved walking around the area whilst children and parents were about the farm. At first I didn’t know if I was in the right spot, but then learnt that Tranby House is the name of the historic farmers cottage from the early 1800’s and then they turned it into Peninsula Tea Garden. It is described as an english cottage styled farm house and the house is 19th century style. It was named Tranby House in 1923, and is one of the oldest surviving buildings from the early settlement of the Swan River Colony.

Second course, of course, was Scones served with strawberry preserve and whipped cream.

 

There was an assortment of French styled cakes and petite fours, and my choice of tea was ‘Stockholm’. The variety of teas to choose from were English Breakfast, Earl Grey, Lady Grey, Lover leap, Kenilworth, Assam, Darjeeling, Camomile, Buddha’s tears, Wuyi, Loolacondera, Serendip chai, and Barbado Dream.

I would mention the details of each tea, but if you click on the website, and go to Menu, then Full Menu, the details of each tea will be listed on the menu for you to look at.

I wanted to try the Kenilworth for something REALLY English, but I decided on Stockholm, and because we loved it so much, my friend bought it for me as a present.

Something delicious to have at home!

Served with a pot of tea, my choice was Stockholm with milk served with fine bone china. I did have a look underneath the cup to see which one it was called but I have forgotten what this one was called! If I had a choice I would’ve chosen the pink Old Country Roses of course! I thought the silverware left an exquisite feel to the high tea!

 

This is the gift bag with the ‘Stockholm’ tea in it. Great to have some goodies for home!

All in all, it was a wonderful experience to have a “proper” high tea with fabulous friends, and it was an experience I will never forget. There is also a ‘light tea menu’ you can experience or just ‘Peninsula Tea’ which is a selection of dainty finger sandwiches, the freshly baked scones with shipped cream, two delicate cake slices, and a pot of tea of your own choice. Vegetarian options are also available.

Bookings are essential. You can click on the website I highlighted for you, and click on “Book Now”. If you would like to see more reviews other than my own, to get more of an insight as to what other people like about it, look at the reviews on ‘Their Moments‘.

Gluten free options are also available, and when seated the staff will ask about dietary requirements. The staff were great, and the view was magnificent of the Swan River, so it was really nice to sit and overlook the river whilst munching on sandwiches and sipping yummy tea.

There are also specials available, such as the smoked salmon salad, or ploughman’s lunch.

So, there is quite a few to choose from if you are not having the ‘high tea special’.

I would particularly like to try the ‘Sweet Tea’ because they recommend to have the Stockholm tea with the scones, cakes and seasonal fruit.

If you are a Mum, it is great to organise a “Children’s Tea Party” which is only $14.80 per head.

So, for an exquisite afternoon tea, don’t forget to book at Tranby House’s Peninsula Tea Garden. Go to the “High tea and booking” tab on their website.

Opening hours are Monday to Sunday 8am to 5pm.

You can call on 08 9272 8894

Address is:

Johnson Road,

MAYLANDS, WA, 6051