Here I want to share with you 5 things that I believe will change your life when it comes to pursuing your dreams and living the life you imagine. I almost forgot about my piece called, Dare to dream, and half the stuff I don’t even think I have done, but putting plans and goals in place, (which is what I will flesh out on a bit more later on) is a milestone, and achievement. Gee, I think I say that word ALOT! Whatever it is you have been dreaming, it is time to look at what you can do to start LIVING IT!
It is on my heart to give some guideline as to how to live a life similar to Kate Middleton, rather than being consumed by women that educate young women about having Botox, or plastic surgery to have a successful and affluent life. I can’t believe the extreme that young girls go to, to look like someone that is basically artificial, rather than a simple natural beauty and stunner! Don’t get me wrong, I think Kim Kardashian is quite pretty, but she uses mascara over her false eyelashes! Or even doubles the false lashes! I also have a soft spot for Kendall Jenner.
It is more comely when a lady is refined and full of knowledge, cultivated and cultured, and I would be so happy if you found the following steps to be healthy for you and desirable for your life.
Learn to be classy
A classy woman is three things,
genuine, feminine and full of high quality.
Being classy is not found on your average street, and being high-class is so rare considering there is a lot of trash on TV these days. I don’t want to offend anyone by saying that the Kardashians are trashy, but from what I have seen myself, I don’t find the Kardashians ‘classy’, no offence to Kardashian lovers.
I may have mentioned this before in previous posts, but to be classy is all about holding yourself with particular style, a hint of elegance, an aura of sophistication, polished etiquette, grace and finesse.
Make your inner sophistication and stylishness stand out by dressing like Kate Middleton, following proper etiquette, and using sophisticated language.
At the moment I am reading an epistolary novel, which uses quite fancy words and is sort of poetic and literary. To extend and expand on your language I suggest you read great literary work, like Great Expectations by Charles Dickens. Go to your local library and search for books on “language” or “allegory” to develop an understanding for technical terms and to help sharpen your mind. Learning to read deeper widens your semantics and perspective and creates syntactics, helping you with the form of words, semiotics and linguistics.
In a manner of elegance and gracefulness be aware of the tone of your voice, how you speak to others, what things you do to attract people to you. You don’t have to be theoretical or philosophical in the way you say things, (although that is very cultured and smart) but simply, stating something from a book or a movie could be advantageous. I particularly like the statement in Pride and Prejudice where they say “Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.”
This is a great example.
“I declare after all there is no enjoyment like reading! How much sooner one tires of any thing than of a book! — When I have a house of my own, I shall be miserable if I have not an excellent library.”
It sounds totally like me!
Practice your posture
You don’t have to put a pile of books on your head to do this, when sitting in the lounge or at the dinner table, make sure you’re shoulders are back, not by sticking out your chest, but make sure that your back is straight. When you are aware of your posture, a sense of self-confidence may come your way!
Watch and learn from other women
Is there a lady that you admire? Do you know a lady that knows how to walk properly, or dresses completely well that you just want to look like her! To be honest, I do feel that way when I see pictures of Kate, but apart from buying an original Dolce and Gabbana dress or Alexander McQueen gown, just to look like her could be overwhelming, so I suggest, go through your wardrobe and do a spring clean every few months and re-wear some of your old dresses without feeling ‘unroyal’.
Work on being polite
Most women or people in general are drawn to someone who makes the other person feel comfortable. Speak softly and sound gentle. Don’t talk too fast, yell or wallow in unrefined gestures. Look at yourself in the mirror daily and practice your smiles. This is very distinguished.
Develop your own sense of style
Putting together a classy outfit can be fun, so go through all your magazines (Vogue, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Elle) and create a vision board of what you like and what outfits you want to buy in the future. It can be outrageous and funky as you like, or pretty and vintage like Blair Waldorf’s style. Sticking to your own style is the best way to go! If something doesn’t flatter you, don’t wear it – having your own personal style and taste is the best way to exemplify your character and personality.
Always wear clean clothes, do your washing as much as you can throughout the week. Wear neatly together outfits and put on a little bit of lipgloss and eyeliner, with a hint of blush. During the day stick to simple ways to keep yourself looking fresh.
Wear a nice long black silhouette slender dress
This is the epitome of class, the perfect achromatic black dress. If you have one, show it off wherever you go. Black is always in style and never goes out of date.
Wearing something flattering like this, is so natural and classy.
Even if it’s not an evening dress, find or shop for something simple like this!
Going Audrey style is perfect too! She has been the epitome of class throughout the decades and especially, the era of the 50’s and 60’s, and has been a fantastic example as an actress, model, dancer and humanitarian. Widely known for her movies such as Roman Holiday, Breakfast at Tiffany’s, and My Fair Lady, “she was ranked by the American Film Institute as the third greatest female screen legend” as said on Wikipedia.
Creating a blog is a great way to get yourself out there and noticed, but sometimes not necessarily. You could work years on blogging and go nowhere, and all your work is just ‘archives’.
Talk to women everywhere you go, and talk about your favourite things. You have to believe in yourself and not just that, believe that you are high class first, and then be totally dynamic and hold yourself high. Learn to be a woman of value, and most importantly, be considerate. This will take you places and people never forget what you do for them. Marketing yourself doesn’t necessarily mean to “get yourself out there”, but basically holding yourself with dignity and respect and love for yourself. If you don’t do something for someone you are of no value to them. What you do for people is number one.
One thing I have learnt over the years is a woman of low value can be someone who has low self esteem themselves and they suck value from others, always getting something from someone and not giving back.
Develop rituals that support your self-worth.
A high quality woman is a woman with a high sense of self worth and we all know that a lady that knows her worth is someone of great value.
Do things to keep yourself busy and productive throughout the day. For example, I find my self-worth and confidence by writing this piece in itself.
You truly know and feel great worth by accomplishing much with your life, and I love the fact that Kate Middleton is not ‘just a princess/duchess’ but she is a woman that works hard for her country and she prepares herself for speeches, and engagements, etc.
I want to feel a sense of accomplishment in everything I do, and that’s what Kate would feel as well. Having purpose and contentment is so important and fulfilling, that sometimes I feel frustrated when I feel I am not doing enough! Even after writing this piece I feel I want to do MORE!!!!! And that’s a great feeling!
So, develop daily rituals daily by giving to others, developing fantastic relationships with your neighbours or friends at school or work, and try not to be judgemental, but full of love.
We can get so caught up with ‘worldly’ women rather than ‘classy’ women, that I hope that these eight points help you to live, learn and obtain classy points in your life. There are numerous articles on being classy on google, it is absolutely ENDLESS, but I particularly wanted to hone in on important factors that could help you be a little more like ‘Kate’!
Most old english pieces of literature and manuscript origins, authorship and early history are quite unknown. I particularly liked and picked up an “old English poetry” book from Scarborough library that I am absolutely loving. Sometimes I feel like it is a bit more eloquent than I could ever be! But my interest in English Literature is widening, and I especially like poems that have a biblical sense to it.
This book is made up of different ‘books’, for example, there is the Vercelli book, and the Exeter book, which has meaning behind the words.
It is a broad view of Anthology of British Literature, and there is a complete range of lyrics that I decided to pick ones I like and share them with you.
- You are a woman wanting to achieve professional SUCCESS
- You want to establish qualities to help you work better and establish a successful career
- You are a lady who wants to take control of your destiny
- You want to gain high quality skills in the workplace
- You want to achieve true flexibility and freedom in your career
If you are any of the top FIVE points, then I highly recommend this book that I am currently reading.
It is called “Own it – The power of women at work” written by Sallie Krawcheck. You can find it on Booktopia for $37.90. Sallie Krawcheck is the Co-founder and CEO of Ellevest, an innovative digital investment platform designed to help women reach their financial goals. Her mission is to advance women in business, and she also is one of the highest ranked women to have ever worked on Wall street.
She says “There are many reasons to be optimistic about the future”, – the business world is rapidly changing, especially with technology in this day and age, and this book highlights how we can OWN it and embrace potential positive impact with businesses.
If you are a woman wanting to start a small business – this is for you.
If you are a woman wanting to learn how to grow your business – this is for you
If you are a woman wanting to learn more on how to gain success in business – this is for you
This book helps with:
- life-long learning
- acute awareness of meaning, and purpose
- reaching long-term goals
- and teaches the ability to OWN power in the workplace and in life
If your goal is to invest in your future, and take financial control of your life – you NEED this book.
When was the last time you did something JUST for yourself?
Has your daily routine been too much and you just need time to learn to relax ?
I have been longing to do this post for a very long time. Not only did someone recommend it, But I have been wanting to come up with ideas and tips for a life filled with mindfulness, peacefulness and serenity. The things that create a time for spending some “you” time. At the end of the day I almost (daily) spend some “me” time.
I get home and pop the kettle on, and just do things to let myself rejuvenate, and renew my mind so that I can sleep better and smash the next day.
The following may work for you, may not, but I have not only researched, but put together my own ideas to cultivate building-blocks of self-care. This is not just something you try and do once and then just forget and get on with a busy hectic eventful life. You need to do these things consistently if you want to have a healthy, mental and physical well-being.
Here are some tips to go by that I think will benefit you in the long haul if you’re a busy person, (Mum, Wife, Entrepeneur, Business Woman, Full-time worker):
1. Listen to classical music or any easy listening (evening) type of music!
I recommend Jackie Evancho, Andre Rieu’, Kathleen Battle, Greta Bradman, Katherine Jenkins and composers like Bach, Tchaikovsky, Mozart and Beethoven. I trained as a classical music pianist for 8 years, so classical music is my escape. That’s why I basically put it as number One! But if you don’t particularly like classical music, whatever kind of music you think is relaxing for you!
4. Breathe – Sit on your bed (or even lay) and concentrate on your breathing. Inhale and exhale slowly, feeling and making sure you are relaxed.
5. Try a different kind of tea – Opt for herbal green, or chamomile tea is also known as a relaxant.
6. Another idea is to just lie on your bed for five minutes and close your eyes. Not necessarily taking a nap, although a power snooze for 5 minutes is excellent! I just think lying there and closing your eyes is a time to renew.
7. Organise a Girls Getaway to escape, relax and indulge……
8. Create your own aromatherapy without the expensive candles with Little Finch Candle and Co.
Some oils to use can be the Aromachologie Relaxing Essential Oil Blend which is only $25 through L’Occitane which is a great lavender oil to soothe yourself and create a healthier you. For some more ideas on oils visit my Doterra Party page and get an idea of what oils would be your favourite or type.
9. Make a cup of tea and pull out a chick flick! Something like “The other woman” with Cameron Diaz is a laugh! Or “How to lose a guy in 10 days” even if you’ve watched it 100 times like me! To me it is a classic! And will always be a favourite!
10. Be selfish. Not in the wrong way, but do that one thing today just because it makes you happy. If there’s something you’ve always wanted to do and something stopped you from pursuing it, I say, GO FOR IT! If you have that gut instinct feeling about pursuing a career, going in a different direction in life, changing courses, then, one thing I always have believed is “Trust your gut!!!!!!”
I am a firm believer in self-care, and am learning new and more ideas from other bloggers who love to post things similar.
Another idea is to have an early nights sleep. That’s always been a top tip!
Priceline has a fantastic product from Essano which is a Rosehip Certified Organic Mist Toner which is enriched with Kakadu Plum and Green Tea. I only got it for $10.39.
Tonight I sprayed it on after putting on my night cream and it is just soooo soothing and refreshing. I feel it doing wonders! It’s more of a day spray to hydrate your skin but it’s still nice to spray on before bedtime.
This time I am doing a giveaway. If you comment your favourite tip and why, you will receive this delicious story of a book!
I have been eagerly writing today and taking down notes from reading “The Women of Easter” by Liz Curtis Higgs. I have collected my thoughts together, and have thoroughly relished in achieving this. It has been a while since I have fully read an entire book in just ONE day!!!! I felt so successful, and felt like I have achieved something for the day, which keeps me feeling truly content.
What I am going to do is set it out by each chapter so that you can get an idea and outline of the book.
So, let’s get started! Continue reading “I want to be a Woman of Easter!!!”
What does success mean to you?
How would you define it in your way of words?
Do you measure it by the goals you attain?
Is it what you have? Is it buying your first home? A car?
The definition of “success” is a “favourable outcome”. It is something you complete and a goal that is reached.
We all want to be successful in something. We all dream it. I know that when and if I do complete a Certificate in Library Studies, that will be a “success” for me! When you finish something with an inward happiness in heart, I believe that that is what success is.
If I reach the VISION that I set out in my About Page – that would be a success for me personally. My desire is to reach out to young girls all over Australia, and even other countries. I even received great feedback from a fan in Pakistan!
Everyone wants to be successful at something. It’s naturally a human thing!
I want to be successful in studies, (future and past) work, home, personal development and any other thing in life. Striving for or seeking to achieve things in life is my top priority, and I want to share with you some top bonus tips.
At the start of this blog I asked some very important questions.
If you answered these then that’s great! You are on your way to identifying your passions and understanding what it is that you really want to do!
1. Make lists
Make a list of your short term and long term goals. Write all your past and future goals down so you have something to strive for in your week, day, month!
I’m a huge list maker, and I love using sticky notes with everything I do. Sometimes I write down what I need to do for the next day and tick them off the following day to make myself feel like I have accomplished something.
2. Educate yourself
Read up on your passions. If you love cooking I’m sure the first thing you google is recipes! So whatever your passion is, google about it!!!!
Gaining knowledge in your area is the best thing you can do. Like for fitness, you learn all the muscles in the body, what the best supplements are and vitamins you need to take daily and what is the best protein shake to have to trim yourself up!
Learning is the best way to achieve anything in life.
3. Live in the moment
My advice is to hold dear to the time you’ve got! Live with purpose and excitement! Focus on every bit of goodness that you can’t remember the last negative comment that someone said!!! Live each and every day as if it is your last. So, appreciate the beauty in every activity of every second of every single day.
“Every woman deserves the chance to realise her God given potential.”
Life skills is quality. Education is attaining. As women, we have to realise our full potential and need to strive for superiority and excellency. If we utilise our mental ability and engage within our communities, we can do more and above and beyond than what we ever dreamed of.
“You have to be true to yourself.
You have to be enough in touch with who you are and what you want, how you want to live and what’s important to you, to make your decisions based on that.”
Always aim high, work hard, and care deeply about what you believe in. And, when you stumble, keep faith. And when you’re knocked down, get right back up and never listen to anyone who says you can’t or shouldn’t go on.”
There is a double standard, obviously. We have all either experienced it, or have seen it. There is a deep-set of cultural, psychological views that are manifest through this double standard… Some of these attitudes persist, and if they persist in as open, and in many ways transformational society as ours is in the 21st century, you know how deep they are.
- Hillary Clinton
What Mrs Hillary has so relevantly observed (see the quote above) stands strong and true as a modern-day Antigona caught in the winds of gender disputes. However, not all gender battles have to turn into wars; some of them may as well be competitive skirmishes leading into a joined future filled with tolerance, respect and love.
What needs to happen in both girls’ and boys’ worlds is that they need to become aware of each other’s strengths and weaknesses, and instead of using them as weapons to conquer one another, they should use them to build stronger and more meaningful relationships. And, in this togetherness, they both need to put their guards down a little.
This time around, we’re talking about some key points that will help girls fit into the boys’ world (and maybe even love it in the process):
I have recently been thinking a lot about what and how young girls think and do and act to fit in a world of boys, friendship, and closeness of peers.
I don’t know everything that goes on in the world, because I lived a pretty sheltered life myself, but I have a heart to reach out to girls that go through either cyber-bullying, peer pressure, and fights that go on in a circle of friends.
I like to stick to basics, and sticking to basics is the best way to go if you want to lead a simple, care – free life.
My top priority in staying true to myself is to:
- Be a lady of quality