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Even though the idea of discovering your signature style sounds really attractive, one thing is certain – it’s a process that requires a lot of time, energy, and effort, which can be really overwhelming for many women. However, the final results are completely worth it. Defining your style and being confident about it is one of the best possible scenarios, so stay with us if you want to know how to make that happen. Here are some useful tips on how to accomplish that and feel as confident as never before, so check them out.
How to define your personal style?
Defining your personal style isn’t a process that can happen overnight – it can take a lot of time, possibly several years until you’re completely sure that something perfectly fits your personality. We’re sure that so many ladies are still searching for their signature style, and that’s completely fine simply because it requires experimenting and playing with colors, patterns, fabrics, and patterns.
You have to understand that fashion isn’t about obeying the rules, since that certainly won’t help you define your personal style. Instead, you can take those rules as some general guidelines, but it’s totally up to you to decide what to wear and what to skip. This means that you shouldn’t try to keep up with the latest fashion trends at all costs. Of course, if being trendy and fashionable is your cup of tea, you can always include such pieces to your everyday combos, but we’re saying that head-to-toe outfits that blindly follow the latest trends probably aren’t the best possible choice.
Understand your body shape and find signature pieces according to it
The first step towards finding your personal style and being self-confident is understanding your body shape. This step is crucial because you simply need to learn which silhouettes will always look flattering on you, without exceptions. If you still aren’t sure about your body shape, you can use a body shape calculator to find out. Of course, your friends and family can be of great help, since they’ll always be honest when something simply doesn’t fit right or looks silly on you.
Besides that, you can take pictures of the combos you’re trying on, which can help you a lot to spot the pieces and silhouettes you should stick to. When it comes to your signature pieces, it can be literally anything you like – from a pair of killer heels and a designer bag to colorful scarves and interesting brooches. Remember Anna Wintour and her famous sunglasses? That’s what we’re talking about! If you’re more into alternative fashion and some authentic pieces not everyone can wear, you should know that it’s actually a huge plus, since such pieces are truly unique.
This means that you will be noticed no matter what, which will help you stand out even in a crowd of people. One of the all-time favorites when it comes to this style is definitely a signature gothic corset, which was adored and worn by a lot of celebrities like Gigi Hadid, Kendall Jenner, and Kim Kardashian. Apart from being really fashionable and stylish, this piece will accentuate your waist and make it look even tinier, which is never a bad thing!
It isn’t about the labels, but about your self-confidence
Defining your signature style and elegance is much more than just sticking to particular brands and labels – is more about being self-confident and comfortable while putting together your outfits. As already stated, style is personal and there should be no rules and trends to keep up with. You should follow your heart and know what looks amazing on you, and to stick to those pieces no matter what. Your style comes from within, from knowing exactly who you are and who you want to be, and that’s what makes you different from millions of other girls.
If you think that you’re beautiful, others will see you that way as well. That’s why you should love yourself in the first place, because if you don’t do it, no one else will. Always believe in yourself and you’ll see an instant improvement in your personal style and the way people perceive you. That’s the key to success when it comes to defining your signature style.
As you can see, coming up with your personal style can be a time-consuming process that can’t happen overnight – it takes a lot of time and effort, but it’s completely worth it in the end. Once you accomplish this task you’ll feel much more confident and authentic, which is exactly what counts most!
Written by Amy Mia Goldsmith
The Duchess of Cambridge, Catherine Middleton made her first appearance after the recent exciting news of Prince Harry and Ms. Meghan Markle’s royal engagement news.
Here are my top 7 tips and traits for a lady aspiring to be a woman of elegance.
1. Kindness – caring, compassionate, loving and considerate
A kind person shows concur for the feelings of others and is helpful and generous. A kind person does good deeds without expecting rewards for doing so. It is a fundamental aspect of manifesting careens and can be the ability to place the needs of others before your own, to be completely selfless and full of empathy.
“Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see”
Kindness is a character strength and a lot of people in this world classify it as ‘good character’. To me,it is number one. You are always going to have unkind people in this world, but we can’t change that, but we CAN change it by being kind. In some situations, where someone is unkind to you and your approach is to be kind back – to me, that is what a woman of strength is, and having that virtue of humanity can change your world.
You can practise or express kindness through doing charity work, or just going home and loving your family is enough.
“Kindness consists of doing favours and good deeds for others without the expectation of personal gain. This strength requires respect for others but also includes emotional affection. Kind people find joy in the act of giving and helping other people, regardless of their degree of relatedness or similarity.”
According to studies, it creates a significant increase in life satisfaction. Another study also found that participants felt happier spending money on others rather than themselves.
Happiness can be increased through the practice of kindness.
“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness” Dalai Lama
Here are some ways to practice kindness:
– Buy a small gift randomly for someone
– Make a card for a friend
– Talk to someone who is shy
– Set up a coffee date with an old girlfriend
– Donate your unneeded possessions
– Talk with a neighbour
– Smile at people passing by
Now you are probably wondering why I put this down as a trait. I put this second as it is a trait that a lot of women aren’t really aware of. There can be so many situations where you can put this into practice. In relationships, particularly when someone uses you for their own gain – you need to be watchful and mindful of these kind of people, and carry on in circumspection.
Another great words to describe this trait is to be ‘vigilant’. These two words are found in the bible in Psalms a lot, particularly when King David talks about his enemies.
3. Self – Respect
As they say, “Elegant ladies are hard to come by.” If you are a young girl looking for information on how to be an elegant lady or like a lady in Downton Abbey, you will come to realise that they have a lot of self-love and del-respect for themselves. The way they carry themselves is with two things:
grace and poise
as they always say!
And how they dress definitely reflects their character. Self-care is of the utmost importance and self-respect and self-care co-exist. It is by development of self-understanding and self-awareness. Through the way they speak, address people, talk, what they are capable of, and holding a lot of self-confidence.
it is all about being aware and confident of who you are.
Through self-awareness you are attuned to your feelings, emotional responses, and listening to the tone of your inner voice. I also did a post on “Staying true to yourself” and it is not easy to do that if you really don’t know who you are, perceptively. To perceive is to be aware, and someone who is perceptive is considered aware, intelligent and insightful.
Huffington Post states on “the 10 Understated Qualities of a truly beautiful woman” that “when your are self-loving you naturally possess a quiet confidence. Your self-awareness, dedication to self-development and personal growth provide you the knowledge to succeed nearly at anything you seek”
4. Treat yourself first-class
An elegant striving lady always treats herself first-class; she is comfortable in her own skin and with her self.
Sometimes we feel less than a lady if we don’t treat ourselves as number 1! You have to think of yourself as FIRST CLASS even if you are in the middle/low classes of society. Society brands certain ladies to be who they WANT to be first-class. We can be bigoted about it and often we forget to use our strongest trait to be kind to ourselves.
5. Use what you’ve got
Wearing a $1000 Buberry coat, and $500 pairs of Vivienne Westwood shoes doesn’t have to be everyones signature and yes, I love delving into high-end luxury brands but at the end of the day, that doesn’t make you elegant. I believe elegance is definitely an inner beauty. It is the way you interact with people and the demeanour you carry that makes you truly elegant. You don’t have to look a MILLION dollars either, although that would be nice! You are probably thinking, why should I take advice from someone who uses the word “exquisite” for their blog, and they’re saying this!!?? but that’s just something I aspire to, and it is not the actual definition of my name. I hope you understand where I am coming from.
6. She uses proper etiquette
In my recent post “How to have proper etiquette” I hone in on the 19th century background but if that doesn’t interest you, it’s fine! In the modern world, it still applies today.
Proper etiquette never goes out of fashion, and knowing the basics, it shows an air or possession of elegance. Over the years, we forget the general rules of etiquette – it can be a “younger generation” thing or maybe you weren’t taught at home, or in your upbringing. It is important to understand it’s meaning and what perceptions you have.
7. A BIG heart
To some, this may seem the most important. I think this can co-exist with kindness because without a big heart ,there is none!
She is someone who doesn’t like to meddle in major gossip and is not petty or catty towards anyone! She is someone who is aware of her thoughts, moods, actions and she puts in a lot of effort when it comes to relationships/friendships.
I love what Kathleen Cheung said at the University of Toronto.
“She’s introspective and she puts in the effort to understand herself on a deeper level so she doesn’t let “what others think” or “what others do” to direct her decision in life.”
She is open-minded, honest, and most of all, believes in herself, and allows things to be, instead of meddling in other peoples affairs. It takes a big heart to help shape other peoples lives and your own. So, don’t forget to have an open heart towards people, even when you have been heart broken in the past or something major has changed the course of your life path.
I suggest you go through each trait thoroughly and write notes if you like. You can use the information for your own benefit, and I highly praise you for reading till the end because it is not EVERy girls ambition to have these kind of character traits and I admire you for wanting to read something of this calibre, with this title, to further develop yourself as a woman and “A Lady of Quality”
In the 19th century, wine, entertaining and feasting was widely practised, as tradition in an English home was banqueting and/or hosting such huge events.
In Western European culture attending parties was almost like the law. It was a British regulation, and part of high society. In the late nineteenth century, a wealthy family would always serve their feast on exquisite china followed by silverware.
Although you have the working class to lower and upper middle class, all classes celebrate at some point.
I would love to one day specifically do a blog on “Victorian Englands Social Hierarchy” but I don’t want to get too carried away and off topic, but I just want to give you a bit of a background to the topic we are going to be covering.
The idea of banqueting is actually found in ancient times, but the definition of it is: a large meal or feast, completed with main courses and desserts. It is also known as an elaborate and formal evening meal.
For example, you have ‘state banquets’ held at Buckingham Palace. The English have “Dinner Etiquette” when it comes to formal dining. If you have been invited to a dinner, always make sure to RSVP at least within a week whether it is lavish or not. This is out of general respect. Your response should always be handwritten or printed on a correspondence card.
Manners and Etiquette in general should still matter these days and proper manners allow us to be comfortable in front of others and society. It is used in todays aspects, in a world of social media. Social Media etiquette is something I really would like to cover and is a whole other topic and should be used when posting on Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter, etc. I believe that when you use the correct manners you will always be highly regarded and more respected than those who don’t.
When serving a formal dinner
At a formal dinner, the host/hostess or the guests do not assist with serving meals. Formal dining, you should know, does not allow you to have second helpings as well.
A full course dinner can consist of several dishes. Even 16!
You can also include number 8 as a salad which is greens with a light dressing.
If you want to Eat like an Edwardian with a meal plan like the Crawleys of Downton Abbey, this is the way to go! You can also include fruit and cheese! Here is an example from Prince William and Catherine Middletons wedding:
Traditionally, after the whole course menu there is some form or entertainment, typically in the 19th century it was dancing and playing with cards – like you see in those period costume dramas.
Getting involved in these activities will benefit you socially and people will love you for it!
Lastly, don’t forget to say ‘thank you’ to the host/s for such a wonderful evening, or for holding such a great party! The nicer you are, the more respect you get!
Making a choice of the right bathroom vanity in accordance with the size of the bathroom tends to give your bathroom a more organized look and feel. Storage gets easier and stepping into the bathroom no longer give a cluttered feel. You can say, these bathroom vanities work miracles and help you enjoy your bath all the more.
There is a wide range of options available in these. You can choose between not only the different sizes but also the different colors, designs, and styles according to your bathroom space. If you find hunting for these vanities a daunting task, you can conduct an online search.
Different Styles in Bathroom Vanities:
With styles like the traditional and the modern available in the bathroom vanities, you can select according to the décor of your home. This is obviously a big advantage, as you are not required to make any compromises on the style of your home. The modern types have concealed drawers, glossy finishes, and offer cleanliness. For an apt modern look, you can think of choosing a vanity unit of a finish of a white gloss. In case, you wish to have a designer look, then black works out to be an ideal choice.
Traditional vanity units are ideal for those homeowners looking for a classy and elegant look to their bathroom. Most of these units are available with doors of wooden panels, design, which is floor standing and handles more on the decorative side. They are available in natural finishes for the timeless feel. You can opt for these units to add a rustic touch to the total look.
Storage Sorted Out:
Opting for a bathroom vanity keeps your bathroom looking tidy and organized, as most of the nitty-gritty of the bathroom is stored in this. This means, cleaning your bathroom gets much easier. Think of using storage trays for the ultra-small items required in a bathroom. A clean bathroom is anytime more inviting than a bathroom, which is messy and cluttered. Organizing and storing things makes them easier to access.
The smallest of changes made in a home can be considered as renovation or upgrade. Opting for the bathroom vanity is definitely an upgrade, as this has helped in many ways. This is not only appealing but also serves the purpose of storage. Take some time and make the required effort to ensure you make the right choice for a bathroom vanity. In case, you intend opting for a DIY, you can save money. You should have the required knowledge for this. If not, it is advisable to spend a wee bit more and get the vanity fixed by professionals so that it serves the purpose of an upgrade to a tee.
Adding Value to Your Home:
Any changes made in a home for the better tends to add value to a home. A clean bathroom, which functions without any clutter will definitely help in increasing the value of your home. Potential buyers always admire facilities, which make the home more comfortable and better looking. Thus, it alludes them to buy it at the deal price offered by you.
Choosing a Supplier:
This is not like shopping randomly in a mall or local market, as it makes a lot of difference to the looks and feels of a home. Before you start searching for stylish bathroom vanity units, make sure of the size, style, and other requirements. Look for a reputed supplier, who can offer you the different choices in a varied range. So that, you can pick or choose whatever you wish that too within your budget. An online search conducted gives you the freedom to compare the different prices and look for the discounts.
Contributing Writer, Alyssa Moylan
Today, interior design is all about blending modern and vintage and creating a beautiful and eclectic space. However, pulling off that look can be a complicated task, especially in the bathroom. Bathrooms are usually smaller than the rest of our rooms and include a lot of hard materials, sharp edges and features you can’t go without. Luckily, if you’re in love with mixing tradition and modernity, your bathroom can also rock that look with a help of a few well-thought-out design moves.
If your current bathroom is designed in a contemporary style and you wish to add some vintage charm to it, one of the easiest ways to do so is to use furniture. Mid-century furniture pieces like credenza or vanity cabinets made of full walnut are a perfect addition to every modern bathroom. Another great way to add a touch of vintage is to find a big antique mirror with an elaborate frame. Check out some antique shops or fairs and find a French-style mirror that will break the monotony of your modern bathroom and make a great focal point of the room. You can also rely on materials such as reclaimed wood. It can be used for making everything from shelves to seating while introducing some extra warmth and vintage character to the space.
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Ask any interior designer and they will tell you that the proper lighting is one of the easiest ways to introduce vintage elements into your bathroom. Vintage sconces or ceiling fixtures don’t cost much, are easy to install and add some drama and luxury to your space.
Add a touch of eclecticism
If you want your bathroom to be unique and charming, you might want to aim for an eclectic look. An easy way to nail that interior design style is to mix metals. For the longest time, mixing different metals was a big no-no, but now you can install an antique silver chandelier, nickel fixtures and gilded cabinet hardware and they will look perfect together. You can also use unusual materials such as cowhide, sheepskin or petrified wood to add some character to the space. Another great tip when buying decor is to seek out independent vendors since they often have items and materials that will make your bathroom look unique.
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What about the fixtures?
Many people aren’t sure about mixing different style fixtures and often pair modern baths with modern faucets and vintage baths with traditional fixtures. However, feel free to install a minimalistic faucet if you own a traditional freestanding bath with ornamental feet. If you also introduce other elements from different eras, they will blend in perfectly. Traditional faucets and sinks can also be paired with modern and minimalist baths. Basically, nothing’s off limits, as long as the space doesn’t feel too cluttered and jumbled.
Install a fireplace
Not many people think bathroom when someone mentions a fireplace. For the longest time, they have been associated with living rooms and an occasional bedroom, but very rarely with a bathroom. However, if you want to add some warmth, classical luxury and natural elements into your bathroom, you can do that with a fireplace. Today, there are many different gas fireplace designs that don’t involve any trouble with wood and smoke, which makes them perfect for small spaces like bathrooms. However, if your room already has a traditional fireplace, don’t get rid of it just yet. You can turn it into an electrical one quite cheap and keep the traditional look.
So, if you can’t make a decision between tradition and modernity, you don’t have to. You can mix vintage and modern elements and create a bathroom that’s functional, elegant, chic and eclectic.
Contributing Writer, Catherine Collins
Catherine is a passionate home design consultant from Melbourne. She loves making homes beautiful and buildings sustainable, but she also like sharing her advice and knowledge with people. That is why she is also a regular contributor to the Smoothdecorator blog. Besides all this, she loves reading and enjoys a superhero movie from time to time.
The Duchess of Cambridge attended a gala dinner for the Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families (AFNCCF) of whom she is a patron of, at The Orangery in Kensington Palace.
Know you who are: live like it matters, is a christian filled book written by a former professional American football quarterback and current professional baseball outfielder in the New York Mets organisation, Tim Tebow. It is a ‘homeschoolers interactive guide to discovering your true identity.’
“Tim Tebow played college football for the University of Florida, winning the Heisman Trophy in 2007 and appearing on BCS National Championship-winning teams during the 2006 and 2008 seasons. Tebow was selected by the Denver Broncos in the first round of the 2010 NFL Draft and spent two seasons with the team. He also played for the New York Jets in 2012. Additionally, he had pre-season stints with the New England Patriots and the Philadelphia Eagles in 2013 and 2015 respectively. In 2016, Tebow announced he would pursue a career in professional baseball and signed a minor league contract with the New York Mets on September 8.” Source: Wikipedia
In Know Who You Are. Live Like It Matters, he shares the wisdom he’s learned—not from what the world says, but from what God says in His Word.
There are 36 sessions that Tim shares with you to share his deep-rooted faith with those that need just a little encouragement, and want the need of a purpose-filled life.
Tim’s Guide has 4 Parts with 9 Lessons in Each part
Part 1: Who Are You? (Learning about the source of your identity)
Part 2: Don’t Sweat It; God’s Got It (You’ll uncover guidance when the going in life gets tough)
Part 3: Others Matter (Relationships are important.)
Part 4: Live Bigger (Learning why and how to live in a way that impacts eternity.)
* Building godly character
* Maintaining great relationships
* Standing out from the crowd
* Doing things that matter in the big picture
but we are going to cover only the following which is Part 1 of the book, on asking a simple question.
Before we get started with Part 1, here is a note from Tim:
“You and I have something in common. We may share similar traits I don’t know about, but here’s what I do know: I was homeschooled, just like you! I can’t tell you how much I appreciate my parents for making a personal investment in my education. One of the things I loved about being homeschooled was being able to focus on the things I was passionate about and how much time it left for things I loved, like sports and exercise.
Here’s something you may not know: my mom and dad decided to homeschool my two brothers, my two sisters, and me before people even knew what homeschooling meant. At the time, some people thought they were nuts. Some wondered if homeschooling was evenlegal! But despite the challenges they faced, it was worth it. Mom and Dad’s careful and thoughtful instruction helped educate my siblings and me. Each one of us was even blessed to receive a college scholarship!
I know being homeschooled may not be the easiest thing in the world, so I wanted to write a book just for you. I’d like to encourage you in your studies by offering some lessons I’ve learned in my personal journey, lessons I want you to be a part of. I want this book to be about you: digging deep to find out who you are and what that means in real life.
You may or may not know this already, but writing is powerful. In fact, an esteemed professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin studied the impact of journaling. Through a handfulof studies, this expert found that expressive writing in a personal and meaningful way positively impacts health, well-being, and self-development. It can put us in a better mood. It can help us process tough situations. It can challenge us to make good changes. It can pave the way for a more impactful future.
Knowing how journaling can be a great tool for self-reflection, I decided to write Know Who You Are. Live Like It Matters. just for homeschool students. You may think you don’t like writing or that it doesn’t come easy for you. That’s okay! As we travel together through the course of this book, writing will become easier. And you may even discover it’s one of your passions!
Here’s what you’ll find in the following pages. Each week for the next thirty-six weeks, I offer a verse from the Bible and a lesson that helps illustrate that verse. Each teaching ends with a section titled “In Your Own Words.” This is your opportunity to reflect on what you’ve learned. You can connect what I talk about with what’s going on in your life. Use my questions as prompts to fuel your thoughts.”
You have probably heard people say that someone “just has good skin”, but the truth is that behind that seemingly perfect, smooth skin is a stable, well-balanced skin routine and self-care, without which, no matter how good your genetics, you wouldn’t be able to have good skin. So, let’s see what are the seven most important steps to having a flawless skin routine.
The most important part of any skin routine is to first get rid of any impurities that have collected in your pores and on the surface of your skin during the day or while you were sleeping. Use a gentle cleanser like the Clarins cleansing milk to remove impurities without being too hard on your gentle skin.
2. Choose your cosmetics carefully
We live in the day and age when most of the things we use every day are filled with all sorts of chemicals. But for certain things, like the food we eat or the products we apply to our skin, we want to make extra sure that they’re as natural as possible, to give us the best results. Organic, all natural brands like Tammy Fender are great options and they will give you the best results, while also not hurting our planet.
3. Get enough sleep
Many of us lead active, non-stop lifestyles, and are often left having to compensate for that fact, like taking supplements because we don’t have time to eat or putting concealer on the bags under our eyes because we didn’t get enough sleep. But the truth is, there is no product in the world that can do for us all the things that a full night’s sleep can do. It will not only replenish our energy, but give our skin time to recover and rest.
4. Apply sun protection
Everyone likes to put on a tan, but if you’re not careful, you can seriously damage your skin just by being in the sun. Let’s break it down: the vitamin that you get from the sun is great – not just for your skin, but for your whole body. However, the sun is not what it used to be, and the rays are now more harmful than ever. This is why it’s extremely important to use a product with the high SPF, every single day. Use a primer like Nars multi-protect, or apply sunscreen during your makeup routine.
For glowing skin, it is crucial to be well hydrated, inside and out. Hydrated skin has more elasticity, fewer wrinkles and its own special glow. There are two main things you should do: First, drink a lot of water. The 8 cups per day are just a minimum, so make sure you carry a water bottle around with you and drink whenever you feel thirsty. Secondly, you should always be using a good hydration cream. Products like The Body Shop’s Nourishing night cream are great to put on before you go to bed, while lighter options like Estee Lauder’s Daywear is the perfect thing to apply in the morning before putting on makeup.
6. Regular treatments
Having a daily routine is important, but sometimes our skin requires extra care. Consider making it a part of your monthly or quarterly routine to go to a professional cosmetician for a treatment of your choice that will improve your skin and give it a boost. But for a more regular schedule, getting a good scrub like the Cosmedix Purity Detox scrub will allow you to exfoliate your skin more frequently. Make sure you don’t do it more than every third day, because you risk taking off too much of the top layer, and always follow the instructions on the product.
7. Healthy habits
It’s no secret that beauty comes from within, and the same goes for health. If you practice healthy habits, eat a balanced diet, drink lots of water and exercise regularly, your skin will show the glow and radiance of health. Avoid eating oily and greasy food, since it can clog your pores; and avoid dehydration to keep your skin glowing.
Of course, some skin types are prone to acne and other blemishes, but as long as you are doing everything in your power to have healthy, happy skin, you can show it off to the world and be proud of it.
Amy Mia Goldsmith