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How to be like “Kate” in a “Kardashian” world 


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It is on my heart to give some guideline as to how to live a life similar to Kate Middleton, rather than being consumed by women that educate young women about having Botox, or plastic surgery to have a successful and affluent life. I can’t believe the extreme that young girls go to, to look like someone that is basically artificial, rather than a simple natural beauty and stunner! Don’t get me wrong, I think Kim Kardashian is quite pretty, but she uses mascara over her false eyelashes! Or even doubles the false lashes! I also have a soft spot for Kendall Jenner.

It is more comely when a lady is refined and full of knowledge, cultivated and cultured, and I would be so happy if you found the following steps to be healthy for you and desirable for your life.

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Learn to be classy

A classy woman is three things,

genuine, feminine and full of high quality.

Being classy is not found on your average street, and being high-class is so rare considering there is a lot of trash on TV these days. I don’t want to offend anyone by saying that the Kardashians are trashy, but from what I have seen myself, I don’t find the Kardashians ‘classy’, no offence to Kardashian lovers.

I may have mentioned this before in previous posts, but to be classy is all about holding yourself with particular style, a hint of elegance, an aura of sophistication, polished etiquette, grace and finesse.

Make your inner sophistication and stylishness stand out by dressing like Kate Middleton, following proper etiquette, and using sophisticated language.

At the moment I am reading an epistolary novel, which uses quite fancy words and is sort of poetic and literary. To extend and expand on your language I suggest you read great literary work, like Great Expectations by Charles Dickens. Go to your local library and search for books on “language” or “allegory” to develop an understanding for technical terms and to help sharpen your mind. Learning to read deeper widens your semantics and perspective and creates syntactics, helping you with the form of words, semiotics and linguistics.

In a manner of elegance and gracefulness be aware of the tone of your voice, how you speak to others, what things you do to attract people to you. You don’t have to be theoretical or philosophical in the way you say things, (although that is very cultured and smart) but simply, stating something from a book or a movie could be advantageous. I particularly like the statement in Pride and Prejudice where they say “Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.”

This is a great example.

“I declare after all there is no enjoyment like reading! How much sooner one tires of any thing than of a book! — When I have a house of my own, I shall be miserable if I have not an excellent library.”

It sounds totally like me!



Practice your posture 

You don’t have to put a pile of books on your head to do this, when sitting in the lounge or at the dinner table, make sure you’re shoulders are back, not by sticking out your chest, but make sure that your back is straight. When you are aware of your posture, a sense of self-confidence may come your way!

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Watch and learn from other women

Is there a lady that you admire? Do you know a lady that knows how to walk properly, or dresses completely well that you just want to look like her! To be honest, I do feel that way when I see pictures of Kate, but apart from buying an original Dolce and Gabbana dress or Alexander McQueen gown, just to look like her could be overwhelming, so I suggest, go through your wardrobe and do a spring clean every few months and re-wear some of your old dresses without feeling ‘unroyal’.

Work on being polite 

Most women or people in general are drawn to someone who makes the other person feel comfortable. Speak softly and sound gentle. Don’t talk too fast, yell or wallow in unrefined gestures. Look at yourself in the mirror daily and practice your smiles. This is very distinguished.

Develop your own sense of style

Putting together a classy outfit can be fun, so go through all your magazines (Vogue, Cosmopolitan, Marie Claire, Elle) and create a vision board of what you like and what outfits you want to buy in the future. It can be outrageous and funky as you like, or pretty and vintage like Blair Waldorf’s style. Sticking to your own style is the best way to go! If something doesn’t flatter you, don’t wear it – having your own personal style and taste is the best way to exemplify your character and personality. 

Always wear clean clothes, do your washing as much as you can throughout the week. Wear neatly together outfits and put on a little bit of lipgloss and eyeliner, with a hint of blush. During the day stick to simple ways to keep yourself looking fresh.

Wear a nice long black silhouette slender dress 

This is the epitome of class, the perfect achromatic black dress. If you have one, show it off wherever you go. Black is always in style and never goes out of date.

Wearing something flattering like this, is so natural and classy.

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Even if it’s not an evening dress, find or shop for something simple like this!

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Going Audrey style is perfect too! She has been the epitome of class throughout the decades and especially, the era of the 50’s and 60’s, and has been a fantastic example as an actress, model, dancer and humanitarian. Widely known for her movies such as Roman Holiday, Breakfast at Tiffany’s, and My Fair Lady, “she was ranked by the American Film Institute as the third greatest female screen legend” as said on Wikipedia.

Market yourself

Creating a blog is a great way to get yourself out there and noticed, but sometimes not necessarily. You could work years on blogging and go nowhere, and all your work is just ‘archives’.

Talk to women everywhere you go, and talk about your favourite things. You have to believe in yourself and not just that, believe that you are high class first, and then be totally dynamic and hold yourself high. Learn to be a woman of value, and most importantly, be considerate. This will take you places and people never forget what you do for them. Marketing yourself doesn’t necessarily mean to “get yourself out there”, but basically holding yourself with dignity and respect and love for yourself. If you don’t do something for someone you are of no value to them. What you do for people is number one.

One thing I have learnt over the years is a woman of low value can be someone who has low self esteem themselves and they suck value from others, always getting something from someone and not giving back.

Develop rituals that support your self-worth.

A high quality woman is a woman with a high sense of self worth and we all know that a lady that knows her worth is someone of great value.

Do things to keep yourself busy and productive throughout the day. For example, I find my self-worth and confidence by writing this piece in itself.

You truly know and feel great worth by accomplishing much with your life, and I love the fact that Kate Middleton is not ‘just a princess/duchess’ but she is a woman that works hard for her country and she prepares herself for speeches, and engagements, etc.

I want to feel a sense of accomplishment in everything I do, and that’s what Kate would feel as well. Having purpose and contentment is so important and fulfilling, that sometimes I feel frustrated when I feel I am not doing enough! Even after writing this piece I feel I want to do MORE!!!!! And that’s a great feeling!

So, develop daily rituals daily by giving to others, developing fantastic relationships with your neighbours or friends at school or work, and try not to be judgemental, but full of love.

We can get so caught up with ‘worldly’ women rather than ‘classy’ women, that I hope that these eight points help you to live, learn and obtain classy points in your life. There are numerous articles on being classy on google, it is absolutely ENDLESS, but I particularly wanted to hone in on important factors that could help you be a little more like ‘Kate’!

LOVE

 

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How to emphasise your gorgeous lips


The pout is everything, especially when paired with a gorgeous set of pearly whites and an attitude that will sass out any competition in the way. Everything you are is read through your body language and facial expressions, which is why almost every single detail you’ve got going on means one thing or the other. No, nobody’s saying be fake to make it! Rather, we are suggesting be who you are and let the world see the beauty you are hiding by carefully manipulating your given gorgeousness.
For all you queens out there who are looking to show the world what you are made of, here are some tips on how to “use” your already beautiful lips and turn them into your shield and armor!

Here we go.


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Staying true to yourself


I have recently been thinking a lot about what and how young girls think and do and act to fit in a world of boys, friendship, and closeness of peers.

I don’t know everything that goes on in the world, because I lived a pretty sheltered life myself, but I have a heart to reach out to girls that go through either cyber-bullying, peer pressure, and fights that go on in a circle of friends.

I like to stick to basics, and sticking to basics is the best way to go if you want to lead a simple, care – free life.

My top priority in staying true to myself is to:

 

  • Be a lady of quality

 

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Easy Etiquette


So far my favourite blog that I have done is the one, How to be a lady. The word “lady” is a civil term of respect for a woman…. and being a lady can be seen as a formal thing. I believe a “woman” and a “lady” can both be perceived as two very different things. Some women don’t know “how” TO BE a lady and need to learn to refine themselves in etiquette, culture, hobbies, and even in speaking in general. Take up something in the arts, or study something that sparks your interest!!!! For example, I am interested in a course Bachelor of Arts (Ancient History) as I am completely intrigued by Roman times and biblical history and so on and so forth…. Who’s to know if I ever do DO it but I know that I DO have an interest in something!!!!!

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Princess “Polyvore”


I recently came across a website called Polyvore. I have found a new love!!!

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You can create your own profile, and create your own collections and sets, so you can put together your own outfit choosing anything from tops, pants, dresses, accessories, shoes, bags, etc. I am currently a “Style Spotter” because I have created two sets so far. I need to create 23 more sets to become a “Style Setter”!!!

My second set that I created I called it an “All IT Pink Girly Outfit“.

I love what I have chosen, as everything that I have chosen is a soft pink colour, and it reminds me a bit of “Legally Blonde”! Except her colours may have been a bit too bright!

This is a collection of my favourite stylish pink stuff. Soft pink exemplifies femininity and I find that this is a very feminine collection. Have a look at all the things I have chosen below, and if you like, comment on what you think about it. I would love to hear what you think!

Chicwish Elate Pink Dress with Bow Decor – A Princess Finish. This is a favourite dress of mine that I have even shared with my friends on Facebook!
$75 AUD CHICWISH.COM

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Christian Louboutin So Kate white shoes – “So Kate” is in Honour of Kate Moss
$845 AUDMATCHESFASHION.COM

Christian Louboutin So Kate 120mm pumps

Alexander McQueen clutch – Swarovski embellished signature skull clasp to finish the look. This just screams “elegance”, and “princess” at the same time.
$795 AUDFARFETCH.COM

Alexander McQueen skull flap clutch

It is currently out of stock, so maybe try Bottega Venetta ‘Knot’ Clutch. It is handwoven in Italy, and is trimmed with water snake and is spacious to fit in a mobile phone, and all necessities for the day.

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BOTEGA VENETA CLUTCH

 

If you want something on a budget, check out this Valextra Zipped Clutch on Farfetch. It is white calf leather, and the designer colour is white pergamena and is made in Italy.

The perfect everyday clutch!

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If you love pink clutches, check out this Saint Laurent Monogramme clutch at Farfetch. It has a gold tone logo plaque which is bound to make you look princessy. I particularly love the Bottega Venetta one that I handpicked, although it is in the 2 grand price level it would be sooo worth it!!!!

August Hat Pastel Wool Fedora – 100% wool
$82 AUDNORDSTROM.COM

August Hat Pastel Wool Fedora

Fendi Pompom Fox Fur Key Chain – Made from Fox Fur
$345 AUDSTYLEBOP.COM

Fendi Pompom Fox Fur Key Chain

Sephora Collection lipstick – A rich, velvety, utra-hydrating lipstick that completes the rest of the look.
$25 AUDSEPHORA.COM

SEPHORA+PANTONE UNIVERSE Color of the Year Layer Lipstick

You could also try the By Terry Hyaluronic Sheer Nude Bare Balm which is only $46 AUD. I particularly love the tube which looks like a gold slick packaging, and makes it look so pretty!

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BY TERRY LIP BALM

 

I hope you like my pink “Princess Polyvore” outfit collection plus a few other things to look at. It is hard to keep up to date with stock, and I will up date posts when I find out that things are out of stock. It can be quite hard to keep up to date because you have to manually click on links, and then realise, oh its not there! So, I will hopefully keep you updated with some new outfit ideas when I get inspired, and share with you my favourites.

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What do you think?

Do you like this outfit?

 

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How to be a lady – Personal Grooming


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To achieve an elegant look, your personal grooming has to be immaculate.

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How you dress, and how you carry yourself is important if you want to be elegant. Dressing elegantly is a whole other thing, and I will blog about this specifically in a separate blog. We need to think about our personal appearance and what we can do to make ourselves look good.

Self-care is vital in this instance, and a woman that does not love herself will not be able to become a lady. You need to love, care and look after yourself and love your feminine side.

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What’s important is that you devote time and energy to refine your image and character. I may reflect more on this in another blog.

When in the shower I cleanse my face with Neutrogena Deep Clean Facial Cleanser. It penetrates deep into pores and improves the complexion. Then I moisturize my face with Sukin Rose Hip Hydrating Day Cream. It has a combination of pomegranate, Kakadu plum and rose hip oil. The ingredients are fruits and oils, such as jojoba oil, lavender, vitamin E and vanilla, and the cream is suitable for all skin types, so any one can use it!!

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After a shower I use Crabtree and Evelyn Pomegranate Argan and Grape seed Oil Skin Indulging Body Cream. It is the best body cream I have ever used!!! I love to indulge in Crabtree & Evelyn’s body lotions. They always smell divine, and the cream is so silky and moist and has rich botanical ingredients including natural antioxidants. It smells of pomegranate with a burst of citrus and fresh fig leaf.

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This luxurious body cream will pamper and replenish your entire skin and leave your skin feeling soft and supple.

Having a clean and pleasant look radiates to others, and people like to see fresh and polished looks. So, moisturize your body, have a cup of tea and read a book, or a magazine!!! Take some time out for yourself. Don’t feel guilty when it comes to your needs.

I just used a skin-clarifying mud mask, and it is strawberry and yarrow. It works on clogged pores and clarifies your skin. If you leave it on for 10-15 minutes it will enrichen your skin, and when rinsed it feels divine!! It was only $1 at Priceline Pharmacy.

Also, exercising helps you build your self-esteem and confidence, and make you feel good about yourself. Aim to work out 2-3 times a week. Exercise also helps with good posture. Do either pilates or yoga. I am going to start doing this as Kate Middleton does this in her fitness regime, and look at her body! She also does a lot of rowing, and using the rowing machine at the gym will also help with great posture.

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Anyways, I am going to go back to my cup of tea, and reading of “The taming of the Queen” by Phillipa Gregory.

Exquisite Emmalisa

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What can you do to keep your joy and motivation up?

is there something you can do to spoil or pamper yourself?

Is there a body cream that you use daily? Maybe try something from the Body Shop!!!

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How to be a lady


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As I have said before in my “About” page, I have done an elegance course in Etiquette, & Self-Manner. It is important for most women to learn how to conduct themselves in a graceful manner and obtain qualities of self-assurance, and self-confidence. I recently bought two books that have helped me gain confidence no matter what the situation is. If you would like to buy material on being a lady I recommend “A guide to Elegance” by Genevieve Antoine Dariaux, and “How to be a lady” by Candace Simpson-Giles. They are my “go-to” and “how-to” books on living with an elegant style. Information on elegance is endless, but sometimes you have to pay to do a course and the information I can give is totally free. I have written down notes from the course that I did, and the books I have listed are also on my Instagram page. The purpose of an etiquette course is to teach young women to conduct themselves in dignity, character and poise. I even learnt this from watching a “Barbie” movie!!!

I am going to start with the “Mindset of a lady”

Firstly, I would like to say that “a woman becomes a lady through training, self-awareness, and a lot of love”.

The beauty of becoming a lady is a timeless thing. Much is to be learnt, and when it comes to training I think the best thing to do is look up on elocution tutorials on YouTube. I came across quite a few lessons, and they teach you how to speak well, and how to present yourself in a proper way. A great film to watch is “My fair Lady” with Audrey Hepburn. It is amazing to see the change in presentation and speech so dramatically.

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A lady is someone who has found the true essence of what it is to be a woman. My favourite website is http://www.elegantwoman.org. There are HEAPS of articles on elegance, how to be lovely, etc and they have the right information you need. They also do courses, if that’s what you want to do.

Your opinions and experiences affect all that you do. How you accept life comes across in your attitude, and the mind of a lady will show.

Consider this, a lady embraces the truth of WHO she is and lives her life with strength and conviction in the knowledge that a lady is a magnificent being of charm, beauty and class.

A lady defines what is sensitive, delicate, kind, beautiful and cultured.

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Being in tune with beauty does not mean being weak and ineffectual. True beauty comes from within, and what’s in your heart will always show to others.

Just as a diamond reflects such sparkle and beauty, yet is one of the hardest stones, equally a lady can exude feminine beauty whilst remaining strong. The best and my most favourite TV show that exemplifies “ladies” is the much loved series, Downton Abbey. Watch this, as it will help you talk like a lady.

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The way that a lady thinks and feels about herself is crucial. It always comes across in conversation, and I have understood this from experience. If you have a positive attitude and mindset, it will radiate and come across in your personality, and people LOVE that!!!! Read books by Georgette Heyer, Julie Klassen or Stephanie Laurens. It will help you widen your vocabulary.

Your love and care for yourself radiates outwards to all those that you come into contact with.

“Know yourself, and love yourself” are indeed important mantras for every lady.

Ask yourself:

Why do you WANT to be a lady?

Have you ever felt less than a lady?

Also, what aspects of being a lady are important to you?

Exquisite Emmalisa

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If you want to do a course, I recommend Etiquette and Co, They do a two day refinement package, and I am pretty sure they are held in Sydney. If you live in Melbourne, go to Tanya Powell Modelling Agency. They are great, and such friendly people.

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Also, Go to How to be a classy lady article to improve yourself in personal grooming and dressing well. It has great highlights on improving posture, hygiene and dressing elegantly.

One book I have is “How to be lovely“. It has quotes by Audrey Hepburn, and is a great light read. Add this to your “elegant book collection”, and you will be well on your way to being a loveable woman admired by most people you meet!!

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