As I have said before in my “About” page, I have done an elegance course in Etiquette, & Self-Manner. It is important for most women to learn how to conduct themselves in a graceful manner and obtain qualities of self-assurance, and self-confidence. I recently bought two books that have helped me gain confidence no matter what the situation is. If you would like to buy material on being a lady I recommend “A guide to Elegance” by Genevieve Antoine Dariaux, and “How to be a lady” by Candace Simpson-Giles. They are my “go-to” and “how-to” books on living with an elegant style. Information on elegance is endless, but sometimes you have to pay to do a course and the information I can give is totally free. I have written down notes from the course that I did, and the books I have listed are also on my Instagram page. The purpose of an etiquette course is to teach young women to conduct themselves in dignity, character and poise. I even learnt this from watching a “Barbie” movie!!!
I am going to start with the “Mindset of a lady”
Firstly, I would like to say that “a woman becomes a lady through training, self-awareness, and a lot of love”.
The beauty of becoming a lady is a timeless thing. Much is to be learnt, and when it comes to training I think the best thing to do is look up on elocution tutorials on YouTube. I came across quite a few lessons, and they teach you how to speak well, and how to present yourself in a proper way. A great film to watch is “My fair Lady” with Audrey Hepburn. It is amazing to see the change in presentation and speech so dramatically.
A lady is someone who has found the true essence of what it is to be a woman. My favourite website is http://www.elegantwoman.org. There are HEAPS of articles on elegance, how to be lovely, etc and they have the right information you need. They also do courses, if that’s what you want to do.
Your opinions and experiences affect all that you do. How you accept life comes across in your attitude, and the mind of a lady will show.
Consider this, a lady embraces the truth of WHO she is and lives her life with strength and conviction in the knowledge that a lady is a magnificent being of charm, beauty and class.
A lady defines what is sensitive, delicate, kind, beautiful and cultured.
Being in tune with beauty does not mean being weak and ineffectual. True beauty comes from within, and what’s in your heart will always show to others.
Just as a diamond reflects such sparkle and beauty, yet is one of the hardest stones, equally a lady can exude feminine beauty whilst remaining strong. The best and my most favourite TV show that exemplifies “ladies” is the much loved series, Downton Abbey. Watch this, as it will help you talk like a lady.
The way that a lady thinks and feels about herself is crucial. It always comes across in conversation, and I have understood this from experience. If you have a positive attitude and mindset, it will radiate and come across in your personality, and people LOVE that!!!! Read books by Georgette Heyer, Julie Klassen or Stephanie Laurens. It will help you widen your vocabulary.
Your love and care for yourself radiates outwards to all those that you come into contact with.
“Know yourself, and love yourself” are indeed important mantras for every lady.
Why do you WANT to be a lady?
Have you ever felt less than a lady?
Also, what aspects of being a lady are important to you?
If you want to do a course, I recommend Etiquette and Co, They do a two day refinement package, and I am pretty sure they are held in Sydney. If you live in Melbourne, go to Tanya Powell Modelling Agency. They are great, and such friendly people.
Also, Go to How to be a classy lady article to improve yourself in personal grooming and dressing well. It has great highlights on improving posture, hygiene and dressing elegantly.
One book I have is “How to be lovely“. It has quotes by Audrey Hepburn, and is a great light read. Add this to your “elegant book collection”, and you will be well on your way to being a loveable woman admired by most people you meet!!